Life Coaching

If you try finding the definition for Life Coaching you’ll probably be overwhelmed with the number of responses. There are about as many definitions as there are life coaches. In the most basic sense coaching is helping someone go from good to excellent.

If we’re talking about a sports coach they take an individual or team; motivate, guide, hold accountable, and inspire them to move from being good to excellent. The same is true of a life coach.

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Life, Death, and Beauty

Earlier today I was planning to write about beauty.

I found a video clip that explains why stress affects our skin and I had some thoughts about that and how the products of Sarah-Noelle could help both with stress and skin care.

Part of Sarah-Noelle’s mission statement is, “While perfect skin and physical beauty are not ultimate goals, there is a sense of contentment in knowing you look your best—especially when you understand that your external appearance is merely a prelude to the authentic, spiritual artistry that is within you.”

The news I received this afternoon about a friend (and former roommate) taking her own life on Thursday has changed my frame of mind today.

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~as they say, “everybody has one”. And for the person who says they don’t have an opinion, isn’t that the same as saying, “In my opinion I don’t care enough about that (whatever ‘that’ may be) to put any thought into it.” Therefore, their opinion is ‘this is not important’.

This past week I’ve offered the opportunity to and asked people for their opinions. In eight days I have facillitated four focus groups for Sarah-Noelle, an all natural skin care line. Asking the same questions time after time and getting different answers. Sometimes the answers varied slightly. At other times the answer was the polar opposite of what the last person had shared.

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If I were to list the top things that Satan uses to try to get to me it would look something like this:

1. Money/Car (usually related, but not always)
2. Depression
3. Addiction

Surrounding my recent sobriety birthday he has been pretty busy in my life trying to get me off track.

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4. a pledge or promise; obligation: We have made a commitment to pay our bills on time.

5. engagement; involvement: They have a sincere commitment to religion.

Above all, my brothers, do not swear–not by heaven, or by earth, or anything else. Let your “yes” be yes, and your “no,” no, or you will be condemned.
James 5:12b

There seems to be a disconnect in our society as to what “yes” and “no” mean. In my life I have seen too many times where “yes” means “if I feel like it at the time” or “if I don’t get a better offer”. Or just as frustrating, when you offer an invitation and get no response until the last possible moment. I’m not sure if these are people who don’t plan events and don’t understand how difficult it is to plan when you don’t know for how many guests you are planning. Or if they are just rude.

I am certainly not perfect, there are times when I have made a commitment to something and had to back out. Those occasions never happened on a whim. Occasionally they happen due to physical illness~which is completely understandable. And for me, sometimes I cancel due to depression.

Which brings me to another level of commitment.


Last Wednesday was a perfect example of the commitment to community in my small group. I had really been struggling with depression for several days. On Friday evening I had plans with a friend~canceled. Saturday evening dinner plans with another friend~canceled. Long time plans with a friend to go to Six Flags on Monday~canceled the week before. Made new plans to go to Six Flags with another friend on Monday~canceled. Add to that the effects of PMDD (premenstrual dysphoric disorder, which is basically PMS increased exponentially) and all I wanted to do was hibernate.

On Monday I made the good decision to let others know that I was struggling. Specifically I sent an email to the women in my community group asking for their prayers. On Wednesday I wasn’t doing any better so I sent an email to our group leader letting her know that I would not be attending that evening. Apparently that was not an acceptable answer. Just before our Bible study should be starting I received two phone calls and a text message. Basically, I could willingly join them for ice cream and fellowship or someone would be waiting on my doorstep to drag me out when I got home. So, mostly willingly I met my sisters at Bruster’s for ice cream. It may not have been what I thought I wanted. But it most definitely was what I needed. (Perhaps I didn’t need the Key Lime Pie ice cream~with lots of crust).

“Friendship is always a sweet responsibility,
never an opportunity”
Kahlil Gibran
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Attention Deficit or Alzheimer’s

I’ve spent the last day and a half wanting to write something here. I’ve had several ideas bouncing–quite literally–around in my head. There is one idea that has stood out as THE topic.

However, I keep forgetting what that topic is. Now I’m beginning to wonder what’s happening. Is it my attention deficit disorder or something more sinister like Alzheimer’s? Earlier today when I had another “aha” moment of remembering what that fabulous topic is I suggested that I write it down. I got distracted or maybe I forgot. If I got distracted I’ve forgotten what the distraction was.

So, attention deficit disorder . . . or . . . Alzheimer’s
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Cary Band Day

It was always the same, yet somehow each year was different. One thing that was always the same was the cold. I don’t know how they always knew which Saturday in November would be the coldest, but they did.

The parade seemed to start at the crack of dawn. Although I know it couldn’t be that early. By that time of year the days were shorter, and we had to park what seemed like miles away from our spot along the route. So getting up early was always a part of Cary Band Day.

Although one year I didn’t see the parade from the sidelines, I saw it from the top of a float. I don’t remember the theme of the float, much less the sponsor. But, I do remember the huge “Nellie Olsen” bow in my in my hair and the gigantic lollipop–you know the ones, they’re multi-colored and swirled. That was a great parade . . . okay, so mostly it was great to eat the lollipop!

One year I didn’t see the parade at all. I was too busy trying to remember all the right notes, keep rhythm and stay in step all at the same time. As an eighth grader I wasn’t too good at that. That was my last year in band, but certainly not my last experience with Cary Band Day.

In fact, a couple years ago I happened to be visiting my parents one weekend in November. As we sat out on the deck you could still clearly hear the bands as they competed for the “Best of Show” and other awards.

It was a very sweet sound.

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